The Advantages of Multigenerational Homes 

Posted in Homeschooling on September 16, 2017 - by George Schalter

Old photo of a multigenerational household

There is a funny new sandwich in town – the filling’s a generation which has to care for both its children and its parents – the ‘sandwich generation!’

When such a situation arises, many ‘carers’ prefer to have all generations under one roof as it makes it easy for them to care for both their kids and their parents. Eleven percent of home buyers purchased multigenerational homes according to the National Realtors’ ‘Home Buyer and Seller Generational Trends Report’ of 2017.

A multigenerational home includes children, parents and the grandparents. Three generations where two are adult. This is not a new phenomenon, and was in fact the norm in the 1800s and early 1900s. Some homes actually had five generations living together. Even the White House has been a multigenerational home during the previous presidency! As urbanisation increased, industrialization removed dependence on farming incomes and returning veterans wanted to live independently, leading to nuclear families living in the suburbs.

Why Multigenerational Homes are Returning

A few years ago, people were discussing workplaces where 5 generations were working side-by-side. Although different generations bring different things to the table there, there is a ‘generational tension’ which has to be managed. As homes morph, there’s going to be some of this tension even within homes. It’s important to understand why homes are turning multigenerational to handle such issues. Here are a few reasons:

1. A bad job scene

As young people find it hard to get jobs, it’s quite common for college educated kids to move back into parental homes. It’s also common for children who had established families and homes separately, moving back in with parents when they lose jobs or homes.

2. Cutting Costs

With rising costs, living under a single roof with pooled resources is more pragmatic rather than trying to maintain two homes. Sometimes a symbiotic relationship works out well. Even when aging parents cannot look after themselves and do not have the means to move into assisted living, getting them to move into your own home might work out better financially. When aged parents who have a home need care, then their children have moved in along with their families.

3. Single Parenting

Single parents always worry about providing a secure comfortable home for their children. Frequently parents step in to help out children to look after their own children. It could also be an aunt or some other relative who has the time and inclination to manage younger kids. This makes the older person feel useful and they get to spend time in the company of kids, which is always refreshing.

4. Cultural expectations

As the number of Hispanic/Asian immigrant families increases, multigenerational homes are becoming the norm. Looking after aging parents is culturally expected behavior. Interestingly, in many European countries multigenerational homes has gone a step ahead and co-housing (where people might be multigenerational, but they need not all be related) is picking up.

Kids and Grandparents

Although we don’t live in a multigenerational setup, our kids have spent a lot of time with their grandparents. They love it that the grandparents always have the time to play with them, be it board games, physically active play or playing outside. Problems are solved differently by different generations. The grandparents had bought our kids a tablet some years ago. The kids shared it happily. Our younger one wanted a dog, and we just did not have the space. As things were heating up, their grandmother visited us. One evening when we came home, our younger one was peacefully playing pet games, feeding his pet and playing with it. This was not an ideal solution, but we had some peace until we could figure out a better solution (we started taking the kids to the pound for volunteering, which they love!)

Advantages of Multigenerational Homes

Here are some advantages:

1. A sense of family

Growing up with grandparents or other family members, gives kids a sense of security. They are cocooned in love and care. In the 19th century in large familial homes, it was common for an aunt or a grandmother to stand in for a mother. Even if a parent fell ill, others stepped in to bring up the kids. At times kids are more comfortable talking about problems at school with non-parental family members.

2. Cultural rooting

Many kids have no rootedness as parents move to new cities for jobs and lose touch with their family. But, if grandparents are around, they tell stories of their parents as children and of how their lives were when they were growing up. They also hear of times they’ll never see again. It gives them a sense of continuity and a sense of who they are. The network of aunts, uncles, cousins and extended family who might visit is like a safety net in times of distress.

3. Cutting childcare expenses

For working parents with young kids, it’s very helpful to have parents around. With rising day-care costs, this is a huge plus. As kids return from school, there is someone at home to care for them. Frequently, even the parents can come home to a cooked meal as their parents pitch in with cooking and grocery shopping.

4. Learn to be mindful

With older people around, children naturally learn to be mindful. They become more patient with older people, and are concerned about the wellbeing of others. Children learn to help without being asked. They understand that everyone cannot do everything in the same way, which helps them become tolerant of others.

5. Simple Play

Most play in earlier times, although simple was innovative and involved the outdoors. With more time spent with an older generation, children might learn the art of simple play not involving electronics!

As the number of multigenerational homes increase, architects are planning homes with more bedrooms and better usage of common spaces with separate private entrances. It’s said that families which play together stay together. In multigenerational homes, the families are larger, but then it just means there are more people to play with. Humankind has continuously innovated in the way it lives to suit its requirements. Perhaps it’s the time of the multigenerational home.

About the author: George Schalter

George loves being a dad. He and his wife share the joys and responsibilities of bringing up their two children. As believers of good all round education, they spend a lot of time playing with their children and spending time outdoors. As George is the writer in the family, he blogs at Educational Kids Games. Find him on Twitter, Google+.

One Response to “The Advantages of Multigenerational Homes ”

  1. Mark Webber says:

    This goes right back to what I was talking about on this post with the best homeschools (and curriculum) focusing on family first.

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